Welcome to the SR family, slinkadink!
I'm glad you found us. You will find support and information for yourself here and especially in our section for family and friends of alcoholics:
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
You can post your questions and concerns anytime.
I'm sorry that your husband is abusing alcohol and you. I'm sorry you are not getting the respect you deserve from your partner.
Please continue to reach out for help, but for yourself. Reach out in your community to your local Domestic Violence Shelter and let them show you your options.
You are not alone, let others help you take care of yourself. (((hugs)))