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01-20-2010, 01:35 PM

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CrackQuack

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Join Date: Mar 2009

Location: Dayton, OH.

Posts: 879

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Originally Posted by rdav74

hey all,
Has anyone ever been this close to the "wall" and if so, what did you do? I'm actually thinking about moving home to my parents house (im fing 35!) :wtf2 because a)they would allow it b)it's the only place i have for free.
This is a man with a work ethic, unafraid to get dirty, has 20 years of experience in the restaraunt biz and associates in business with a p.h.d in the art of bullshitting...
Feelings...they teach you that they are important....I am scared and I can't stand being scared. I'm using this to vent, I'm not looking for anyone to solve my problem, but just would love to hear some stories, advice..because I'm trying to reach out and not internalize!
so far, this is my day
rob d
day 15 with only caffience!

Hi there! I am about the same age as you (I'll be 35 at the end of this month), former GM employee whom made 2 grand a week, 6 figures a year (yeah overtime!), easy. Went from 6 figures in the bank, my own home, 6 vehicles and an enclosed trailer, and lots of jewlery and clothing that fit. Whoa.. Those were the good days. Kept a bunch in the bank until 2007-2009 when I got hooked on crack cocaine. Moved in with Mom at age 33 (yeah, I felt like a little failure), and currently, go back and forth between Mom's and the boyfriend's. I work 20 hours a week for about 130 a week. And it was all I could find, here in Dayton, OH.
Walls closing in? U betcha. I am still trying to figure out how I am going to pay my credit card agreement (run over card from drug days) AND my tags at the end of this month. ALL of my check goes into gas, bills, and food (until state gets off their arses and gives me back my foodstamps). Oh, and 15 bucks a week on cigs. I have nothing saved and won't have anything saved for a long time. Usually, I can suppliment my income with fairs I attend as a vendor, but January's fair got cancelled.

But I trust in my HP that my tags will get renewed and my bills will get paid, whether I have to beg, borrow, or sell something in order to get it done. Thank God, though, I am not selling anything to get dope! I'll wear a HUGE smile on my face Feb. 3rd! I may be broke, but I am clean. I may not have two pennies to rub together, but I am clean! WOOT!
Move in with your parents. It's temporary. A lot of people are doing it, these days. My boyfriend's neighbor went from the same income I once had to half that and is losing his house and moving back in with his parents. This guy is in his 40's. THANK GOD FOR OUR PARENTS! Just make sure you do some extra chores for them, bring them goodies (like flowers), or treat them to a nice, but within budget, lunch/dinner once in a while. Heck, cook for them. And give them extra time. I cannot afford to get my Mom's lunch, and she buys, but she enjoys the time we have together and I do her running for her, like going to the grocery, or when she's not feeling well, taking her car and getting it gas. Sometimes her meds make her shake really bad, so I'll write her checks and I try to be patient and teach her about the computer. She wants to pay bills online rather than in the mail. Whew.. I don't have much patience for that. But I'll learn it. LOL
I try to keep boyfriend's house halfway clean. I hate it because THAT is what I do for a living (cleaning lady), and I hate to come home to do the same thing, but he foot the bill for my nice warm truck (new heater), treats me like a princess (without spending much, he's GOOD! LOL), and has a lot of faith and love for me. So I do it. And even after I get off of work at 1-2AM, get to bed at 3-4AM, I get up at 7:30AM and cook him breakfast. I hope it's good because I am up, but not awake. LOLOLOL..
My son keeps mom's house clean because he lives there too. He's 18.
In fact, tomorrow, we're going to lunch! YEAH! I can hardly wait.
Just keep the faith that things will, eventually, get better. And keep up the awesome work on not wanting that drink and realizing it would solve nothing to go back. :ghug3