I find I have to stay honest and keep in touch with others every day to stay true to myself.
So well said Dee.
The issue of anonymity is crucial. Here in Sweden a rather nutty high profile gossip columnist turned trashy author wrote a scathing exposé "novel" of her failed relationship with another high profile author. She dragged his name and lots of other people's names through the mud, including detailed descriptions and names of people at her AA meeting! At every AA meeting, and I assume every NA meeting, the importance of anonymity is repeated.
Lurking in strange alleys to pick up a white chip so nobody finds you're not the person you had them believe you were is not complete and total honesty. I get the distinct impression that regardless of your pleas for guidance and acceptance, you're more concerned about your reputation than you are your recovery.
I kind of see your point J, but....do we really have "strange alleys" in recovery?