peaceforme...perhaps you aren't in the headspace that allows you to feel anger yet, so let me voice that feeling for you.
He wants YOU to take HIM to a meeting?! OR ELSE he's going to go to a bar?!!
I sincerely hope you see what b.s. he's spouting. "Mommy mommy, please do everything for me OR ELSE I'll just pout and whine and cry and let myself lie here until you're so guilt-ridden you do what I ask!".
Ugh, sorry. I just came out of a relationship with a very similar, super-lazy, blame-it-on-the-world King Baby, and it boils my blood when I see other people having to deal with that attitude.
Now where's that King Baby link?