Something I have noticed is that in the past I have dealt with toxic people/situations by either stomping away (well, could be running away) in a self-righteous huff or exhausting myself ignoring the person or problem.
And it hit me that both of these "solutions" come with a physical and mental price.
So here I am with another moment to rise to the occasion and I'm struggling and I read TC's post and I think, here she is up against the same BS that she's been moving away from time and time again and I think, where have I heard this lament before...yeah, that's right...ME. I'm playing DeJaVu with different people over and over.
Barb, I think you're right. I've had trouble with certain types of people my whole life. I've learned my codependency existed before XABF and I met. I've had these interpersonal troubles long before him. It is high time I learn healthy ways to handle them.
TC, how are you doing since your post?? How can we help you cope and work through this?
Alice.