Ceres

Seems like this might be a good thread here. My higher power no doubt drew my sponsor to me. We worked together so well, it's weird. She never left me in "dark" to figue things out alone. I was like a kindergarter. She took me by the hand and led me step-by-step. Of course I had to do the work. I did everything I was told to do. It made it so easy. A couple things I don't know what I'd have done without:

Meeting with me twice a week the first 60-days for an hour. And she meant an hour! It's wasn't girl talk or listening to me whine. At every session I was given homework. Somethings to do and some things to read. I had to highlight what I read that I felt connected with. And we discussed at our next meeting. Some may think they don't have the time for this. But it's 2 hours out of 168 hours in a week.

We still meet one a week, although less formally. We both make it a point to catch up by showing up at our home group meeting an hour early.

For the first 30-days I had a daily to-do list that accounted for my every minute. From cleaning to playing with my kids. It was all scheduled. I was then calling her each night to go through the to-do list and see how I did = Accountability.

In addition to the reading "homework" I was given things to do like giving three compliments a day. And writing them down. Some may look at this as ungenuine. But, it trained me to be genuine. Now instead of thinking "gosh, she looks good today" I actually SAY it and it comes naturally.

Also looking back she did a great job of letting AA do the work. She kept herself out of it and let the program do the talking. As such, she was never perplexed about what to say or what to do in any given crisis I handed her.

It was the perfect mixture of being compassionate and at the same time - letting me know that the person I was, was unacceptable.

Of course the real glue was doing all I was told.