Maybe I could spend my energies elsewhere.[/QUOTE]
yes it is an exhausting job! A job I no longer do.....So start to use all your energy on yourself....it really really will make a difference to you...not overnight of course! but slowly but surely it really really does and you will start to see things differently. I still slip up now and again and put the focvus on his alcoholism and have to snap myself out of it! and back to whats good for me!!......
I started with one small step and my focus these days is to look after myself so I can be the best mother to my three beautiful kids who deserve the best start in life that I am able to give them......regardless of their fathers alcoholism. It isn't ever easy but I just keep focusing on myself and it really makes a difference.
Thank goodness for SR as people here really do understand......good luck and keep posting ....Phiz