Have you finished working through the steps with your sponsor. I know exactly the pain you are talking about and had this a lot when i ddid my not drinking stint a year last october for 5 months. This time i have worked the steps and continue to do so on a daily basis and haven't had the pain, in fact everything has changed and i am a very different person. So the steps, where are you with them?
Stick around here too, lots of people to say hi to to keep yourself occupied:-)