Oh, dear, you sound so much like what I feel like. My daughter is 24 and still living at home with us...has a full time job but financially could never make it on her own. She also sucks extra money from us like a Hoover vacuum cleaner. We have spent so much on her these past 2 years that we will have to postpone our retirements of several years. But worse than the money are the sleepless nights and mental stress that she causes me. I know who she goes out with, where they go and what time she is supposed to be home...it is like she is still a teenager...she doesn't expect rules because she is, afterall, an adult. How can we tenderly detach...she is our only daughter and her father and I agree that we will not put her out on the street. We are unable to go that far with the "tough love" philosophy.