I love that you are searching and looking for answers. Are you doing any other self-help work? For example shame, guilt, people pleasing, anger. Basically have you figured out why you started drinking in the first place?
It sounds to me that you are saying (and believe me I've bargained in my brain about this) if we get to the core issue, we might be able to make the decision to drink or not drink. Maybe the obsession and the compulsion will go away. The cravings will cease and WE WILL BE IN CONTROL OF IT.
Man, am I making ANY sense today?