There are a lot of people out there who have successfully remained sober for years and have a life beyond their wildest dreams...in AA...hindsight is a great thing but logically speaking one would go to a person with long term sobriety and who seems happy, joyous and free, and ask them how they did it...like if i was wanting to set up my own business i would ask the advice of someone who successfully ran their own business for 20 years turning the profit i wanted to and had everything that i wanted, not someone who has just set up a business or has 3 failed businesses to their name but is every hopeful that the next one will work or someone who is thinking about it and has some great ideas but hasn't quite managed to start yet...in the business world that would be insane?! I would apply the same to getting sober, that's my experience and suggestion.