It's not for nothing that groups like AA suggest no big changes for, like, the first year
You're in a state of emotional upheaval CGC - you're trying to heal, trying to work out who you are, trying to work out how to deal with everything without weed and, if you were anything like me, trying not to rip peoples heads off while doing all that....
and without taking sides I daresay your husband is trying to deal with you dealing with this too. He's probably floundering as much as you are...
I'm not an relationship expert by any means.... but my advice is ride it out - give it time - don't make any sudden moves at least until you're damn sure who the real, new CGC is
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