I have not been homeless, I have not had a DUI (not for trying though), I have not lost a job or a relationship due to drinking. I count myself very very lucky for that.
Yet I have been drinking heavily for 30 years. And yes through good times and bad times. I would probably still ENJOY alcohol if it wasn't for the fact that I am an alcoholic, maybe that's why I enjoyed it so much.
Maybe yours shakes are nerves, maybe not. Dee made a very good point about certain conditions that are misinterpreted.
My shakes were caused by too much coffee
but of course I needed an excuse.
Your family is noticing and questioning your drinking - you yourself are.
I haven't seen a normal drinker questioning their drinking yet, they just take it or leave it.
I couldn't do that. It was all take.
Good luck whatever you decide.