When it comes to experiences with AA, I would tend to defer to those here on the board with more experience than I have. Though I have gained a great deal from the program, it has only been a part of my personal recovery process. As Keith said, that is his personal experience. Every sponsor has their own way of working with you. I do think it is important to find a sponsor you are comfortable with. That doesn't mean someone who's "easy" on you, but someone you think you can learn from and improve. Many people leave the program after having a sponsor who "just didn't work out" instead of trying to find someone else to work with. Of course if this starts to become a pattern, it's time to take a hard look in the mirror at what the real problem may be. Again, this is just my personal experience and what I've observed, please take it as just that. Take care.