Old 01-03-2010, 03:06 PM
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teke
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Originally Posted by jacksdaughter View Post
It makes me feel like if I make the call it gives him permission to treat me badly like he did.
this is something that my mom has always said to me, i have 7 kids and once my oldest son stayed mad at me for a good while for the same reason as yours. i wouldn't allow him to continue to stay with his gf at my house and he's not an addict as i know of.

he stayed upset with me long enough for them to land good jobs and a really nice place for themselves. today they are married with 2 kids, doing well and we now have an awesome relationship. i think they seemed just as content letting me take care of them both while they did whatever they wanted to do without being responsible for themselves.

when my family turned me away, it helped me to see how destructive and out of control my life had become which caused me to want to seek recovery and stick to a plan of recovery. today im clean and grateful to them for allowing me to be responsible for my own actions.

i say, focus more on you, in time, he'll probably come around/
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