I highly recommend a trial period of "No Contact". It was the only way I could detach long enough to listen to my inner voice without all the chaos.
I set a goal for myself, like: "I will not take his calls or read his texts for 3 days."
I took it one day at a time. Sometimes one hour at a time. I had to keep reminding myself why I was doing this and re-focusing my attention on myself and my children. It is difficult! I was accustomed to spending all my energy and thoughts on him and his reactions. It takes longer than 3 days to retrain your brain to focus on your own personal needs, but it is a healthy beginning.
Give yourself three days of no contact and let us know how you feel.