I would like to suggest you call your local domestic violence center and make an appointment with them. "Even" verbal abuse has devastating effects that can leave lasting scars and impair our functioning. Getting in touch with them was the best counseling I have had...and I have been seeing counselors off and on for over 20 years!
The best thing you can do for both of you is to start taking really good care of yourself. You deserve it!
hugs,
live