Yes I am starting to realize there is another underlying reason for what they do and say, and always making it seem like it is your fault not theirs............its hard to filter what is reality and what is not........it really hurts your feelings if you take everything they say at face value.
Like my ex I am learning that sometimes what he says he is actually referring to himself and not me........he says stuff like I'm manipulative and I'm too strong a person for him???????? What the heck does that mean he was with me for 9 1/2 years and now all of a sudden I'm too strong of a person for him and too controlling............the problem is he cannot control me because I wont live with him if he is drinking.........
very confusing to a normal thinking person and trying to decipher it all will drive you insane.