You are not alone SB. When my, then 4 year old, was asked by his gramma what we need to get to throw a party he answered first and foremost "a box of wine." Ugh! That is not something a 4 year old should equate with a good time and believe it or not that was a major turning point for me. Someday I will tell him this. His life changed my life for the better in more ways then one. Quit smoking when I was pregnant for him. I would say I will live longer because of his influence. Children are wonderful motivators.