Thank you for your understanding, it is clear from your post that you understand exactly what I am feeling. The boundary, that forced me to ask him to leave 3 1/2 weeks ago was him calling me names....a trashy trailer *****...which for whatever reason made me tell him to leave because I was done with the namecalling as I had already told him. That is one of his more mild names......but I had had it. I guess what I don't get is, he believed that I will just "get over it" and when we argue now he goes right back to calling me names. Thank you again for your understanding.....I am trying to focus on me...but I still feel really sorry for him and who he has become.