MeAndOnly,
AA isn't the only way to get and stay sober. I use Rational Recovery. There's also SMART, LifeRing and CBT (cognitive behavior therapy). I wasn't able to stay quit until I got some tools under my belt.
I went to an inpatient rehab and used AA for about eight years. I learned a lot and it was mostly a good experience.
Tapering didn't work for me either. It was all or nothing for this girl!
Explore all the options and choose one that works for you. And do stick around SR. It's a great place for support, information and has some truly fabulous people!
Love,
Lenina