hi TC
I'm very lucky with my partner, but I know many members here have partners who support them less than they would like, so you're not alone, and SR is always great for support - but you know that already.
I met my partner after I got sober, but I'd destroyed relationships before that. I just focused on what I knew I needed to do for me, I let my actions be my apology - at least in the beginning...one ex now talks with me again and has forgiven me...I doubt the other ever will. That's something I have to live with, but I know I've done my best.
Do your best - and I firmly believe things will turn out the way they're meant to.
Stay focused on what you need to do, a day at a time, and see where the journey takes you
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