Hi healthyme
I think you're on the right track. For me, it was crucial to accept it would take time to heal, that the timetable was not up to me, and that every relapse interferes with that healing.
I also accepted I needed to work on myself and some deep seated problems, but just not drinking was enough for me for the early days LOL.
SR was vital in that process. The support here is amazing
Its good to have you aboard - welcome to SR!
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