Thank you thank you everyone. His drug of choice was oxy... and I don't think he is seriuos about his recovery. He hasn't gone to a meeting in a week he was with his hold friends all weekend. He is due home tonight I can kinda tell now by looking at him but I think it's time he gets his own place. Maybe then ??? who knows. I will continue following all your really good advice and go to my naranon meetings. It keeps me from crying eveyday and I figure that's a good thing.