Silkspin - It's like parallel lives. My husband had one beer a couple of weeks ago after nearly a year of sobriety. And when he told me, I forgot all about Al-Anon and yelled -"How could you!" etc etc. Afterwards I went to basics: I have no control over him. I believe in God and I believe whatever happens, will be for the best. Should he try contol drinking again (which so far he hasn't), my boundary is that I don't want to see him drunk again.