((Elsie))
So many lose so much and still don't quit.
My 53 yr old exAH lost me, his wife of over 16 yrs, 5 daughters and soon to be 9 grandchildren, the majority of his family, his mother won't hardly speak to him.
Good job, after job, vehicles, financial stability, countless friends, and he had at one time 3 plus yrs of sobriety and clean time - all gone.
This disease is no respector of relationships, family, children or even grandchildren - once it grabs ahold of a person - it will NOT let go - until that person is able to find their HP and seek a way of recovery.
Please know that the BEST thing that you can do for him is to SAVE yourself.
On the inside he truly carries a tremendous amount of guilt - saving yourself takes the guilt of your demise off of him - he may never say it but I have heard many recoverying A's talk about it.
Love yourself enough to take care of YOU - You truly deserve it - that's what was suggested to me and I am so glad I listened.
Today my life is much safer, saner and peaceful,
HUGS to you,
Rita