some of us were made to feel, from a very young age, that what WE want or need isn't important, that someone else's wants and needs take priority. they might not have said it, but it is what we heard. we have been putting our SELVES on the back burner our whole life.
i was raised that when a woman or young lady wears a skirt, she wears pantyhose. then this current young generation comes along and they are going bare-legged everywhere, even in the winter! it has taken me several years to get over my bias. even when i knew in my head that it wasn't that big of a deal, my gut still argued. to this day, even when i do go "hose-less", it feels weird.
a trivial example, but it's what jumped into my head and i think it illustrates a point. change starts in our heads, it moves to our hearts, then plays out in our behavior. and it's rarely easy.