Baby due 7/29/10
This is meant to be a positive post. My best advice to friends and family of an alcoholic is that your dreams are important.
I fell in love with a guy who loved me for who I was. And I loved his family. My dream was to be married and to have children. The truth was that he struggled with alcoholism--and there I was married to an alcoholic. It really blanked because I felt like I was revolving around him and no one really cared about my dreams. And I was trying to figure out how to help him.
With a lot of prayer and help from his family, my husband is sober now. It was not overnight. We were separated and almost got divorced. Sometimes I really wondered if God was really listening to my prayers. In the end, my husband had to make the right choices for himself. We have been living together now since May.
It is really wonderful to see him for who he is without the alcohol. It is wonderful to have a husband who is employed and responsible now. I even started taking free cooking classes at Williams Sonoma, and I cooked Pumpkin Cheesecake for Thanksgiving (my MIL loved this).
And God recently answered another prayer for me. After 2 miscarriages that were very painful, I found out I was pregnant again in November. My obgyn had me take baby aspirin (due to results from a Recurrent Pregnancy Loss test), and I also took progesterone as well just in case. I just went to my first appointment today, and there was a heartbeat. That beautiful heartbeat. A blessing from God.