It only depends on what you can tolerate. Try reading my post..Living with the alcoholic by Jager72. I hope my life story helps your decision you have to make. Just remember, it is the alcohol and not who he is. But, face it, if he is not involved in any sort of help for his disease, he WILL continue to drink. So, what is your tolerance level? And also, you do not deserve his destruction. I live it and it is not easy but, I learn to tolerate the disease since I am a recovering alcoholic despite my Fiance' still drinking. Hope this helps you.