Originally Posted by
stella27 
Hey Elsie, What does it mean to "start stopping?" which was one of your boundaries in your post? Do you mean a date for him to begin controlling his drinking? He can't do that. It's not possible for him.
Try reading your post as if I or someone else here has written it...what would you tell us?
(((hugs)))
What I mean is, when he begins to stop drinking.
He's told me himself that he will not go to AA (he says it too religion based for him) and he will not go see his Dr for advice. He says he can quit on his own, or control the drinking.
I feel like I keep giving chance after chance after chance and never seeing long term results.
Then I think, well...*I* have issues, is it fair of me to ask this of him when I have issues that need taking care of? (codependency and social anxiety disorder)