Originally Posted by
mentallyexh 
... I also stated that I would work on my own anger/behaviors (which I know are related to codependency). I am working on these regardless.
Please, please do not attribute your anger or bahaviour to yourself!! You have been abused, your reactions to abuse are survival NOT a form of codependency and definately NOT your fault.
You are no way responsible for the abuse that you suffer!!
This is what abusers WANT you to think! This gives them a justification that they have a RIGHT to treat you abusively. Which they do not, in no way shape or form!
There is no justification for abuse
Your partner CHOOSES to abuse you, consciously. He chooses abuse where another man would choose communication, understanding, collaberation.
I really, strongly recommend you read Lundy Bancroft as in my previous post. Codependant no more is a fantastic book (which I have read), but it is NOT a book that can advise within the context of psychological abuse.
Big hugs
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx