Its been two months for me. The best thing I could have done, I cant say its easy but having no contact has helped me. The first week was very hard, baby steps, one day, minute, sometimes moment is all I can handle, but it works. Doing things for yourself is a very hard concept at first, I still struggle, but the more nice things I do for myself, the better I feel. Detachment, is the key, still have issues with it. Practice makes perfect. I try not to let guilt guide me, its never worked. Hang in there, it does get better.