Thanks everyone. The younger one is 36 now & I am not worried about him doing anything stronger cuz he has been that route already & stopped. He stopped everything else 5yrs ago when he became a single dad. He works steady, has a good job, pays his bills & is a wonderful father. He is a very anxious young man & claims it calms him down. I KNOW he doesn't need it but until he comes to that decision I know he won't stop. I just don't have anymore money to lay out. I WILL do as you all advise & just refuse to even loan him any money. My nerves are getting shot from the stress of always being short.
Bonnie thanks for the input. I have told him no before & he stops for a short while but then he starts asking again. I am 62 now & tired of it all. My hubby & I deserve better.