Welcome burstpeach..glad you found us! I can relate to how your partner doesn't really 'get it'. I have the same thing here...he's asked, 'so, when are you gonna drink again?' Of course, this is my fault, and I know that. I'm hesitant to make it sound really serious and dire to him. I figure if I can quit without much drama, all the better. We've had some great times drinking together, and I think he would be a little sad to think that that part of our lives is over, but he doesn't see drinking through my eyes. He can handle it normally, and I...not so much.
Anyway...just wanted you to know you're definitely not alone and with work and resolve, I'm sure you can have the sober life you're looking for!! Best of luck to you..hope to see more of your posts!