Well done for recognising the pattern and for not engaging! It is so hard to do but you managed it. It does get easier with practice. I am amazed at how clearly I can see through his manipulations now - I just couldn't see so clearly when I first came here. This perspective made dealing with STBXAH much simpler - I didn't fall into his 'traps' as much and I could start thinking for myself.
What a relief!
