This too has been the pattern that I have endured for 4 years with my ABF. Every time he's be inebriated, he'd say the most verbally abusive things. Meanwhile, I'm sober. I remember all of the things he says. He however, when he sobers up, conveniently forgets and expects me to continue on with the relationship (lest we not forget about the sex) as though nothing at all has happened.
Then when I try to bring it up and talk about it, he says, "I don't want to talk about this now. We'll talk, but just not tonight." I guess I don't have to tell you guys that I never do get that chance to talk.
It wore me down. It eroded my self-esteem. It made me short-tempered with my DD. It made me feel guilty about being short with my DD.