As a side note to what you are going through I hope you removed the 'clean' urine from the freezer and flushed it and are now checking refrig and freezer daily.
He is trying to 'manipulate' you with his words and you are seeing through it. GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!
I can honestly and truly tell you that the best thing my parents EVER did for me was to shut the door on me and go No Contact. They told me it was my problem and I had to fix it they could not. They hung up if I called. Shut the door in my face if I came to their house and would have called the cops if I stole from them. It took me 2 1/2 more years, the last 1 1/2 living on the streets, but many years later I am still able to say:
IT WAS THE BEST THING THEY EVER DID FOR ME. I just regret that they waited so long to do it, as I was 33 1/2.
I know this is hard for you. But if you do not take care of yourself to insure your own peace, serenity and sanity you won't have a you.
Know that we are walking with you in spirit.
Love and hugs,