Hi Kind Eyes. I remember thinking those same thoughts about my son - Who is this person? I'm sorry you are feeling so down about it. Try to remember that it is perfectly all right for you to NOT know everything that is going on in HIS life. No contact can also include not getting daily/weekly updates from his son's mother. You are allowed to ask her to NOT talk about him to you. You aren't HIS savior, and you aren't HERS either. You have every right to just take care of yourself right now, especially while you are feeling so vulnerable. Remember, you are trying out new behaviors here (no contact) for yourself because you don't have to live in sadness any more. It's up to you, one day at a time, to choose NOT to hear about HIS woes that day. Please be gentle with yourself and allow yourself this gift. Turn him over to his HP and enjoy the choices YOU are making for your own life. And enjoy that little grandson, too! Peace and hugs, girlfriend.