I moved your post to a thread of its own, so you could get a proper welcome.
My suggestion is to step back from your friends who drink, at least until you get some sober time. It's not your husband's job to keep an eye on the amount you're drinking. If you're bored going out with your husband and friends, then stay home and do something you enjoy.
Cutting back is usually not possible for addicts. It's actually much easier for addicts to stop drinking altogether. Do whatever it takes to get and stay sober.