Originally Posted by
Dee74 
I dunno about you but I wouldn't have responded well to ultimatiums in my drinking days.
I found you cannot make someone else well. It took me years to get that, but it's very true.
The desire to stop can't be an external one. It just doesn't work like that.
Your friend may or may not get sober - you have no control over that.
What you do have control over is getting yourself sober, recovered1.
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Maybe I watch too much Intervention. They always issue ultimatums on that show. I am not trying to be a hard ass. I am just trying to help.
I guess I am a horrible codependent - looking at others and how to fix them and forgetting about me in the process. Thanks for your take on things.