Hi Recovered1
I had many times when I should have been helping friends or fufilling some obligation... and I couldn't cos I was drunk.
I had to get myself right before I was any use for anything, or to anyone else.
Your friend obviously has her own journey to make.
Focus on you.
Start today, recovered - when I was 'winding down' it mean putting things off ...it meant probably another week or more of the same old same old to this alcoholic..
Make today the first day you get back to being well.
Go and see a Dr as your first step.
Also check out some face to face support whether it be AA, Smart, LifeRing, counselling, rehab....whatever.
heres a link to some of the main groups
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...resources.html
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