welcome rhonda. glad you found us but i'm sorry about your son. seems like you are off to a good start. you maybe helping him more than you think, just by taking care of you and your needs. addicts are very resourceful and very manipulative. stay strong and continue to focus on you.
i'm a recovering addict and my family took the same kind of stance. they allowed me to reach my bottom and find my own way back up. today i'm eternally grateful to them for allowing me to suffer the consequences of my own bad choices. you and your son are in my prayers. i pray that he find his way soon.