Tytan,
your post about holding your wife made ME cry...because I've had a heck of a week, and yesterday was a real struggle for me, and my birthday. I asked for some of that lovin, cuddlin, from my husband and couldn't get any...
yeah, you've done some lousy things...but the sort of holding and being there you gave her means SO much...there are no words to describe how healing such a simple act is...how much good will such gentle attentiveness has the ability to restore.
I went to bed with a heating pad...feeling pretty lost and alone...wondering why I couldn't get a little comfort.
We are trying to work on our marriage, just a month ago we had planned to seperate in Jan...in our marriage I am the obvious scumbag these days, had an affair a few months ago, obviously...am an addict. But he's got his issues too, and one of them is witholding the love...I guess you can say that over the years I didn't react well to the cold shoulder.
So, keep loving your honey...body, mind, heart and soul.