Lets get the thin one
Just kidding, I am only borderline crazy jealous of you, but it is one of those things that it's difficult for those who aren't affected to understand.
My sister who is naturally thin tries to help me out a lot, and while I really appreciate her effort it is difficult to get her to understand my (completely bonkers) mindset.
I do get that the media representation of women is unrealistic but I don't think I play into that too much, the fact is that I am not a bit chunky I am fat (probably medically obese) and I really need to lose some weight both for health and appearance sake.
I don't know if the unhealthy relationship (starving or binging) that I have with food is tied to my alcoholism but I am trying to use the same tools that I am using to stay sober to control that relationship, so far not so good lol but I don't see any reason that if I tweak things a little I can't one day be successful.