Lizzie101 like you for way to many years alcohol was a solution for everything for me. In order for me to stay sober I had to find a new solution for life.
Where I found that solution was in the program and fellowship of AA. I have been through some tough times and not even thought of a drink as a result of them. I have seen people in AA go through divorce, bankruptcy, deaths, lose of jobs, failing health, even terminal illnesses and stayed sober thanks to the fellowship and program.
I spent a lot of years "solving" problems by drinking, today a drink never even enters into the equation of dealing with life.
Thanks to AA when one of my daughters was wasting away to nothing before my eyes due to anorexia instead of being/getting drunk to where "I" could escape from her life threatening problem, I was able to help not only to get her into rehab, but be an active, sober part of her ongoing recovery.