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This is what worked for me last year. I had so much pity for myself because I still had to have Christmas eve and Christmas day at my house where people would be drinking. If I heard a Christmas song I would immediately start crying. Well I told myself it was only for that Christmas and the weight was lifted. Surely I could go one Christmas without a glass of wine. I just told myself if I really wanted one maybe next year I could have one. It totally got me through the holidays. This year I'm alot better but will probably at some point have to tell myself the same thing. I think it is when we start to think about never is when we get upset. Good luck and I think it is a plus that we think about what we are going to do before hand. Having a plan is a big part of this recovery.