My ex was 5 yrs clean & sober when I met him. He was attending meetings on a regular basis, even going to Alonon meetings every week. I really thought this man had it together. Then within a year he turned into a monster, blamed me for the abuse.....which being newly sober I thought it was me!! Until I talked to his ex who was with him when he used and discovered not much had really changed with him. He is a sick man with or without the drugs and booze....however should he start using again I think I will go in hiding...lol.