How do you know if an addict is lying? Are their lips moving?
Try to keep top of your mind that everything he is saying is for effect on you. He is trying to control you. That is all he is capable of right now. What he is saying may be completely true. Addicts do move back and forth between codependents to prove that its not "them" that have a problem. My addict is currently on the hunt for a new co and I had only left him by 3 days. ( and the reality was he had been hunting a new co for a year... Sex and love addiction are part of his problem as well).
My best advice? Try to stay rational and tune into what isnt being said but implied. What action is he trying to elicit from you.
I really really really know how hard this is. I only separated myself 3 weeks ago, and its one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life.
- Susan