Originally Posted by
curiousfox 
Maybe I'm in the wrong place, because my problem isn't so much the drinking, because I can control it... but I have to work REALLY hard to do that... but it's result of my drinking... So obviously the drinking is a problem
But thats not the problem I'm trying to solve right now! Argh!
No, you may very well be in the right place, just for all the wrong reasons. Keep posting and reading and you'll find out why.
Back off from your friend, give her some space. Let things move at her pace, not yours.
Mark