Morning Jason - it's a new day.
I know it feels like an attack but I believe because we're so used to being defensive about our "behaviour" while using it's kinda like a kneejerk reaction to get into that mode when we hear something we don't like.
Our self-esteem is damaged Jason and it's only through being real 'here and now' will it ever get stronger. So even though you may feel like John is not being supportive I think it's us who have to look at ourselves and say "you know what? as much as that hurts, it MAY be true"
We are all here for the same reason, and we're also very individual in how we interact, but that doesn't mean it's mean spirited just different.
Please don't think too long on this subject as it's cutting into what's really important and that's you being sober today.
Hugs and strength....